Definition. Frenemy or Frienemy:
Frenemy can refer to either an enemy disguised as a friend or to a partner that is simultaneously a competitor.
-Wilkipedia
In a comment to a recent blog Sugar introduced me to the term, "The Holiday Getback" a phenomenon that describes the behavior of men who will come out of the woodworks around holiday time because they are lonely. Evidently this "disease" affects women too!
I used to be friends with this girl named Lee. Or at least I thought we were friends, turns out we were actually frenemies. We used to spend hours talking on the phone, almost on a daily basis. When my grandmama died she was there to comfort me. After all, we were friends. Needless to say I was absolutely devastated when she ended up causing a major mess in my relationship with my ex. Alas, we were friends so I forgave her. That is when I first realized that a part of her enjoyed seeing me suffer. That particular incident made me question if she was really my friend. A few months later she made this huge deal over a small misunderstanding that occurred with our parents (our parents, not us) she basically cut me off cold turkey. She stopped taking my calls. She pretty much acted like I didn't exist. I was so hurt, worse than the hurt I have felt when I have broken up with boyfriends. We had been sister friends. So what did I do? I shed a tear and then I got over it, sooo over it.
I have spoken to her a few times since then. I am always cordial. Today she called me with some important immigration information news. I appreciate the heads up, I really do. After sharing this information with me she started making small talk... She wanted to know why my ex and I broke up (probably so she could gloat), she started telling me about her man...blah blah blah. The truth is that I really didn't care. As she was talking I was thinking about the 1001 other things I needed to do. I got off the phone as soon as I could.
If I was a mean spirited person this is what I would have said to her:
I don't hate you
but I don't like you either.
I have no desire to talk to you
I probably never will
I don't need any frenemies in my life
There is no point in me sitting here and
feigning interest in anything that you have to say.
I wish that life brings you the best that it has to offer (peace, joy, happiness, fulfillment)
Most of all
I wish you enlightenment
God bless
Have you ever had a frenemy?
Frenemy can refer to either an enemy disguised as a friend or to a partner that is simultaneously a competitor.
-Wilkipedia
In a comment to a recent blog Sugar introduced me to the term, "The Holiday Getback" a phenomenon that describes the behavior of men who will come out of the woodworks around holiday time because they are lonely. Evidently this "disease" affects women too!
I used to be friends with this girl named Lee. Or at least I thought we were friends, turns out we were actually frenemies. We used to spend hours talking on the phone, almost on a daily basis. When my grandmama died she was there to comfort me. After all, we were friends. Needless to say I was absolutely devastated when she ended up causing a major mess in my relationship with my ex. Alas, we were friends so I forgave her. That is when I first realized that a part of her enjoyed seeing me suffer. That particular incident made me question if she was really my friend. A few months later she made this huge deal over a small misunderstanding that occurred with our parents (our parents, not us) she basically cut me off cold turkey. She stopped taking my calls. She pretty much acted like I didn't exist. I was so hurt, worse than the hurt I have felt when I have broken up with boyfriends. We had been sister friends. So what did I do? I shed a tear and then I got over it, sooo over it.
I have spoken to her a few times since then. I am always cordial. Today she called me with some important immigration information news. I appreciate the heads up, I really do. After sharing this information with me she started making small talk... She wanted to know why my ex and I broke up (probably so she could gloat), she started telling me about her man...blah blah blah. The truth is that I really didn't care. As she was talking I was thinking about the 1001 other things I needed to do. I got off the phone as soon as I could.
If I was a mean spirited person this is what I would have said to her:
I don't hate you
but I don't like you either.
I have no desire to talk to you
I probably never will
I don't need any frenemies in my life
There is no point in me sitting here and
feigning interest in anything that you have to say.
I wish that life brings you the best that it has to offer (peace, joy, happiness, fulfillment)
Most of all
I wish you enlightenment
God bless
Have you ever had a frenemy?
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