Rewind about 5 months back. I meet this guy online. I will call him Jason Kid (JK). He tells me that he only reason why he joined match.com just to write to me. He sends this super long e-mail that seemed so sincere. He seemed like the truth. He was 6’2”, cute to boot (a Jason Kid look alike), successful entrepreneur, smart, active in his church, never married, no kids, parents married for almost half a century, volunteers on the board of several not for profits, yada yada yada… I was so excited, being the eternal optimist, it seemed like he had so much potential. Then…nothing. Alas, actions speak louder than words.
Within five minutes of talking to a guy I can get a feel for if he is sincere or if he is trying to run game. Game recognize game. After a few conversations on the phone I was able to ascertain that he was someone that did not want to be taken seriously. After that we would talk every once in a while. I was soon “over” him and stopped returning his calls all together. It has been a few months since I last talked to him.
So yesterday JK sends me a text message wishing me a happy birthday. That is really sweet and all…except my birthday was SEPTEMBER 28 not November 28…sigh. I guess it is the thought that counts? He calls me today and I decided to take his call. He basically tells me that he wants to put the past aside and that he really wants to get to know me better. Say bruh, you are a day late and a dollar short. What the heck happened to you? Did you just wake up with Tee on the brain? Did your radar go off that another man might be lurking on the horizon? Couldn’t you just stay in the (figurative or literal) hole where you have been hiding all these months? Sigh.
Another blast from the past called yesterday. Swedish cowboy, evidently his silence was due to the unexpected passing of his grandmother. He just came back from Sweden… I can’t be mad at that.
Can someone explain why guys pull that disappearing, re-appearing act? It is quite tired already.
Within five minutes of talking to a guy I can get a feel for if he is sincere or if he is trying to run game. Game recognize game. After a few conversations on the phone I was able to ascertain that he was someone that did not want to be taken seriously. After that we would talk every once in a while. I was soon “over” him and stopped returning his calls all together. It has been a few months since I last talked to him.
So yesterday JK sends me a text message wishing me a happy birthday. That is really sweet and all…except my birthday was SEPTEMBER 28 not November 28…sigh. I guess it is the thought that counts? He calls me today and I decided to take his call. He basically tells me that he wants to put the past aside and that he really wants to get to know me better. Say bruh, you are a day late and a dollar short. What the heck happened to you? Did you just wake up with Tee on the brain? Did your radar go off that another man might be lurking on the horizon? Couldn’t you just stay in the (figurative or literal) hole where you have been hiding all these months? Sigh.
Another blast from the past called yesterday. Swedish cowboy, evidently his silence was due to the unexpected passing of his grandmother. He just came back from Sweden… I can’t be mad at that.
Can someone explain why guys pull that disappearing, re-appearing act? It is quite tired already.
6 comments:
Girl, it's the "Holiday Getback"! I wrote about this on my blog a week or so ago. Men will come out the woodworks around the holidays because they get lonely too...AND, they know that women do and some of them are trying to prey on that weakness! You have to examine each "connection" individually, but they usually breeze in and before Valentine's Day rolls around, they're gone.
I have no idea why people love the play games.
Oh dang, I never heard of the Holiday Getback! Sounds like a funny post!
In my experience men reappear 100% of the time. Its crazy.
Ahh haa! Thanks sugar...the holiday getback! I love it! That makes sooo much sense.
@babs- it sure seems like it. If you ever decided to turn your life into a sitcom (not a bad idea)--you would have a lot of reoccurring characters!
They reappear because they can. They've reappeared with other women and been successful. Damn, I should close your page and re-read my comment for my own good. LOL
When you are no longer interested, and they have at least 30 days of you not calling/returning calls to prove it, that becomes the "Come Back Zone." They all do it. In my opinion, it has little to do with a radar, but moreso with the timing of your absence from their everyday.
And I'on know about them coming back for the holidays cuz they get lonely, but they damn sure come back for the presents! LOLOLOL Don't buy these fools NOTHING unless you got a patent on him.
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