I have learned a lot of lessons today:
1. I need to stop procrastinating (ok I knew that one already) LOL!
2. Just because something feels good does not mean it is a good idea.
3. There is wisdom in the counsel of many
So I was really excited about seeing Mr. J and I had pretty much told him I was coming (see "should I stay or should I go"). Now I am pretty sure that I could have gone and nothing really bad would have happened. Like I have said been there done that and could write a number of blogs about it. However, three different guys who I trust (and have zero interest in me) very strongly urged me not to go to Philly to meet Mr. J. Now some girls said the same thing too but I think certain things are more convincing when coming from the opposite sex. Of course there were a few people that told me to throw caution to the wind, pack my bags and go. Sure I am Ms. Independent, I can take care of myself in almost any situation. However, I have learned that when one person says something you can take it or leave it but when a number of people keep saying the same thing, they just might be on to something. The bible says there is wisdom in the counsel of many. This is only true if the people you are listening to are giving you good advice. Many well intentioned people can send you astray. When taking advice consider the advisor, is this someone you want to be like? Do you share similar beliefs and values? If the answer is "no" then keep it moving. It took me a while to figure out that single girlfriends are not the best people to ask for advice when it comes to guys (no offense intended). That is not to say that they cannot give good advice, it is just that if my happily married friend says "A" and my can't-keep-a-man girlfriend says "B", I am going with "A".
I have also learned that when the heart is going "tick tick tick" it is hard to think straight. That is when it is time to listen to your wise friends. So while I really wanted to go to Philly I took pause when the people who care for me told me to let him visit me. Talking to Philip tonight (remember him from "is love obsolete") helped me appreciate my value. He also helped me appreciate the value in guarding my heart. The bible tells us "above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life" Proverbs 4:23. As an aside, Proverbs is a very informative book!
So I told Mr. J I wasn't coming. He was disappointed and really didn't understand why. He tried to tell me about how safe he was. I explained to him that wasn't the issue. Amongst many other things I quoted the verse about "when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing," and not "when a woman chases a man around the country." He told me he understood and would work with me. He then talked about how he had been away from home on business over the last 8 weekends and was scheduled to be away on business for the next three weekends. He told me about how he was trying to sell his house but needed to make some renovations that he had not been able to do. Essentially he was implying that it would be a long time before he could come to visit. However I am sure that where there is a will there is a way and if he really wants to see me he will find a way to make it happen. On the other hand if he is the type of guy who only wants to see me when it is easy and convenient for him. Then I don't really need to be bothered. I am not easy and I need a man that is willing to put in some work to be with me. (The last sentence was especially for you Phillip-LOL!)
1. I need to stop procrastinating (ok I knew that one already) LOL!
2. Just because something feels good does not mean it is a good idea.
3. There is wisdom in the counsel of many
So I was really excited about seeing Mr. J and I had pretty much told him I was coming (see "should I stay or should I go"). Now I am pretty sure that I could have gone and nothing really bad would have happened. Like I have said been there done that and could write a number of blogs about it. However, three different guys who I trust (and have zero interest in me) very strongly urged me not to go to Philly to meet Mr. J. Now some girls said the same thing too but I think certain things are more convincing when coming from the opposite sex. Of course there were a few people that told me to throw caution to the wind, pack my bags and go. Sure I am Ms. Independent, I can take care of myself in almost any situation. However, I have learned that when one person says something you can take it or leave it but when a number of people keep saying the same thing, they just might be on to something. The bible says there is wisdom in the counsel of many. This is only true if the people you are listening to are giving you good advice. Many well intentioned people can send you astray. When taking advice consider the advisor, is this someone you want to be like? Do you share similar beliefs and values? If the answer is "no" then keep it moving. It took me a while to figure out that single girlfriends are not the best people to ask for advice when it comes to guys (no offense intended). That is not to say that they cannot give good advice, it is just that if my happily married friend says "A" and my can't-keep-a-man girlfriend says "B", I am going with "A".
I have also learned that when the heart is going "tick tick tick" it is hard to think straight. That is when it is time to listen to your wise friends. So while I really wanted to go to Philly I took pause when the people who care for me told me to let him visit me. Talking to Philip tonight (remember him from "is love obsolete") helped me appreciate my value. He also helped me appreciate the value in guarding my heart. The bible tells us "above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life" Proverbs 4:23. As an aside, Proverbs is a very informative book!
So I told Mr. J I wasn't coming. He was disappointed and really didn't understand why. He tried to tell me about how safe he was. I explained to him that wasn't the issue. Amongst many other things I quoted the verse about "when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing," and not "when a woman chases a man around the country." He told me he understood and would work with me. He then talked about how he had been away from home on business over the last 8 weekends and was scheduled to be away on business for the next three weekends. He told me about how he was trying to sell his house but needed to make some renovations that he had not been able to do. Essentially he was implying that it would be a long time before he could come to visit. However I am sure that where there is a will there is a way and if he really wants to see me he will find a way to make it happen. On the other hand if he is the type of guy who only wants to see me when it is easy and convenient for him. Then I don't really need to be bothered. I am not easy and I need a man that is willing to put in some work to be with me. (The last sentence was especially for you Phillip-LOL!)
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Good for people to know.
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